Educational psychologist · Marriage & family counsellor · Port Harcourt
You are not your verdict.
Counselling for individuals, couples and families — grounded in psychology, held by faith. In person in Port Harcourt, and online wherever you are.
Where people usually start
If any of this is your life right now, you are in the right place.
- You and your spouse have stopped talking — or you only talk when you fight.
- Your child is bright, but the school keeps telling you something is wrong.
- You have done everything right and still feel like you are failing.
- You are thinking about leaving, and there is no one around you safe enough to ask.
None of these is a sentence. Every one of them is workable.
Who you will be sitting with
Dr. Christie Onenee Obey has spent more than fifteen years in the room with people at the worst point of their story — couples on the edge of divorce, parents told their child will not cope, women rebuilding after something they never chose.
She works as both psychologist and minister, and refuses to separate the two. The assessment is rigorous. The room is kind. You will leave the first session with something to do, not just something to feel.
- Training PhD, Educational Psychology, Guidance and Counselling — Ignatius Ajuru University of Education, Port Harcourt
- Professional body Member, Counselling Association of Nigeria — Rivers State Chapter · CASSON10029
- In practice Over fifteen years · Individuals, couples, families and schools
- Books Shaped, Not Sentenced · A Leap Over Divorce
How she can help
Five ways in, depending on who needs the room.
Marriage counselling
Whether you are rebuilding after betrayal, arguing about the same thing for the fifth year, or quietly working out how to leave — this is the room for that conversation.
Marriage counselling →A room to talk
Counselling for people aged 16 to 25 — for when you need someone who will listen properly before telling you anything.
A room to talk →Individual counselling
Fifty minutes with someone whose only job in that hour is to understand what is actually happening to you.
Individual counselling →Children & learning
An educational psychology assessment, and a written report the school has to take seriously.
Children & learning →Online & diaspora
Online counselling with someone who already understands the family, the church, the expectations, and the distance.
Online & diaspora →Ways to work with her
Pick the one that matches where you are.
Local rates in naira, international rates in dollars. Payment on booking, and you can reschedule free up to 24 hours before.
A room to talk
50 minutes · ages 16–25 · limited slots each week
A full counselling session at a rate students and people early in their careers can reach. Same psychologist, same standard, lower price.
Individual session
50 minutes · in person or online
Anxiety, grief, burnout, a decision you cannot make alone, or the slow feeling that something is off.
Marriage session
80 minutes · both partners
Communication that has broken down, trust after betrayal, in-law pressure, or deciding whether to stay.
Marriage intensive
Three sessions across two weeks · saves ₦30,000
For couples at the edge. Concentrated work, a written agreement, and a review at week six.
Child & learning consult
90 minutes · parents and report
Assessment and a written report you can take to the school, when a child is struggling and no one can say why.
Her books
Two books, one argument: you are being formed, not finished.
Not Sentenced
For anyone handed a verdict by their family, their history or their own head, and not ready to accept it.
Over Divorce
Written for couples standing at the edge. The book behind the marriage work she does in the room.
Read three lessons first
Free, before launch. No spam — she writes roughly once a month.
In their words
From people she has worked with.
I didn't have the courage to talk about what I was going through with anyone. Dr. Christie made me feel like I could, and when I finally did, she listened, without judgment. Sometimes you don't need someone to have all the answers — you just need someone who makes you feel safe enough to speak.LilyA room to talk
From her writing
Notes from the room.
How to Tell Whether Your Marriage Can Be Saved
A counsellor's guide to the difference between a marriage in trouble and a marriage that is over — and the questions that actually tell them apart.
Read →Your Child Is Not Lazy: Signs of a Learning Difficulty Schools Miss
What Nigerian parents should look for when a bright child is failing at school, and what an educational psychology assessment actually involves.
Read →Finding a Nigerian Therapist When You Live Abroad
Why diaspora Nigerians often struggle in therapy with a culturally unfamiliar counsellor, and what to look for instead.
Read →Book
Sessions open three weeks ahead. Take the first one you can.
If you are not sure which session you need, book the individual one — she will tell you in the first ten minutes if something else fits better.